
Last week Brys had a very nice quote in a Washington Post Express article about entertaining picky eaters. It’s a difficult prospect when you make a guest list for a dinner party and it seems like everyone has a consumable no-no. I got my experience with dietary juggling in college, when I would do dinner parties for a dozen of my friends, all of whom had their different restrictions.
We had three vegetarians, one vegan, one no-turkey, some no-red meat, a few semi-kosher, and one allergic to all milk products (down to the molecular level — until you look, you’ll never know how many products have whey powder in them). Add to that a whole host of pickiness and vegetable preferences, and I took three weeks trying to find a menu that would fit everyone.
Eventually I did. The Italian-themed meal had several variations - I made chicken parmesan for the meat eaters, eggplant parmesan for the vegetarians, and one small dish of eggplant breaded with matzoh meal (the only “bread crumb” without milk products in it) and no cheese on top. I made much of the meal from scratch, including the meat- and dairy-free tomato sauce, and it ended up being a crowd-pleasing success.
That experience left me with a few general rules for this kind of dinner planning:
1) Make a variety of vegetarian side dishes. Some combination of them will generally satisfy everyone, even if the main dish is off-limits. Best to avoid mushrooms, as they tend to be a common no-no among picky eaters.
2) If you make something spicy, go easy on the heat source and allow people to add more if they want. If you have one spicy dish, build cooling and refreshing dishes around it.
3) Unless you know for sure that everyone loves fish and/or seafood, avoid them. (It’ll keep your costs down anyway.)
4) In your dinner party invite, always include a line asking people to let you know if they have special dietary needs. Most of the time you’ll know, but it’s always good to ask.
5) Consider making the dinner a pot-luck. Usually those with the most specific needs will bring something sure to suit their own needs. (My favorite example? gluten-free girl’s potluck wedding earlier this summer.)
Making sure there’s something to fit every diet can be a challenge, but it’s so worth it to see all of your friends sitting around a table, full and happy.